Category: Your Custody Court System

“Parenting time” vs “Custody”

After a divorce or a break up that involves children, people immediately begin to invoke the word “custody.” The concept of custody is antiquated. Custody presumes that there can only be one parent who truly makes decisions and monopolizes the children’s time. This custody concept leaves the other parent as the parent “without custody” and only gets every other weekend at best.

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How To Financially Survive Divorce

One of the hardest parts of breaking up with a serious partner that rarely gets discussed is dealing with financial hardship. Unless you were the sole provider, divorce is likely to result in loss of income, as you won’t have someone else contributing to bills and everyday expenses. There may also be savings and assets that you jointly own, which need to be fairly divided. With all the emotional struggles surrounding a divorce, it’s often easy to make the wrong financial decisions. Here are just a few tips for helping you to financially survive divorce.

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Dealing With Divorce In A Long-Distance Job

Divorce at any level stinks. You also have to negotiate something which is very emotional. This only becomes a bigger challenge when you find yourself in a divorce in a long-distance job. To help you out with this, this post will be exploring the work which can be done to improve your chances during a divorce.

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What Will Happen if You’re Getting Taken to Court

There are all kinds of reasons why you might find yourself being taken to court. Sometimes, it can come out of nowhere and other times you might be keen to fight your case so that you can get the outcome you want or prove your innocence. Whatever your situation, you need to know how the process is going to play out and what you can expect as you move through the different stages of the process.

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Saving Money On The Cost of Divorce: The Basics

There’s no getting around it – divorce will cost money. But how much money you spend on the proceeding is, ultimately, down to you. Let’s take a look at some of the ways you can save. First and foremost, don’t dive into divorce proceedings unless it is absolutely necessary. Whether you are saving money or not, the reality is that separation and divorce are going to be expensive, both in financial and, possibly, emotional terms.

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What Judges Look for in a Custodial Parent

It’s been three years since I wrote, What Does a Judge Look for in a Child Custody Case. To expand beyond that post, I thought I would actually go interview a sitting family court judge. A few phone calls later, and with a Chic-fil-a lunch bribe, a local judge agreed to discuss, “What do you look for in a custodial parent when both side appear equal?”

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What to Expect After a Social Study

Friends, I get letters and eMails every day asking questions about their specific court cases. I will try to find the best ones and sharing my answers weekly. Below is an eMail from a step-Dad asking, “What to Expect After a Social Study” regarding his wife’s child custody process.

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In the U.S. How Often Do Fathers Really Win Full Custody?

Seven years before the 21st century, 15.9% of children were living with their fathers while the mother lived somewhere else. Almost 25 years later, has that number improved? In the U.S., how often do fathers really win full custody? There are a lot of sources, statistics and theorist that answer this question, but let’s turn to Timothy Grall, of the U.S. Census for answers.

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How To Face the Trauma of a Child Custody Evaluation

Sometimes, allegations of spousal abuse, neglect, or substance abuse may require a court to make the final determinations. If serious allegations or problems arise, the entire family may be referred to child custody evaluation. Usually, the entire family will then be referred for child custody evaluation. Typically, the results are presented to the court to determine the most suitable custody and parenting arrangement.

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Divorce Affects College for Children

6% of non-custodial parents assist with their children’s college. That last fact is shocking. No wonder fewer from divorced families go to college; too many are limited by the income/funds because only one parent (usually the mother) is paying the bills. And of course, the biggest reason cited for children of divorce to not attend college is, a lack of funds.

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Time & Date Stamp Your Written Vacation Requests

To prevent conflict as a result of miscommunication, you might have your letter time-stamped and dated. You can bring three copies of your notice to the courthouse, where you may get each copy officially stamped with the date and time. Then, leave one copy to be kept on file with the court, mail one copy to the custodial parent, and keep one copy for yourself.

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Practice to Win Your Child Social Study Evaluation

To win your child social study evaluation, your kids will need to feel comfortable talking with the case worker. Yes, they are going to have to talk and answer questions with this stranger. Caitlyn was four years old when a caseworker arrived at my house to conduct the court appointed social study.

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Fair is Never Part of the Custody Equation

I received an email letter from a Mom who is greatly concerned because the courts are recommending shared custody of their 10 year old son. She, rightfully so, feels this recommendation is unfair because the father has been out of the son’s life for most of his childhood, and yet the social worker feels it is the the child’s best interest.

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Treat Your Temporary Hearing Like a Final

When I was in high school, occasionally teachers would give the class a “pop quiz” or ”pre-test” on Mondays. These tests would be over material we had never seen or studied. The majority of us would fail the test, which was totally acceptable. The goal of the instructors were to see what we knew, before diving into a week long of lessons.

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Is Splitting Children a Reasonable Custody Strategy?

So you’ve got two kids, and you and your Ex are haggling over custody? Both might expect a long, expensive, protracted legal battle, something no one really wants or can afford. But neither of you wants to give up custody. But who says the kids should stay together? Is splitting children a reasonable custody strategy?

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A Look at the Inconsistency of Child Support State Laws

While painful, child support can be fairly clean, especially when one parent is the primary caretaker. However it gets more complicated with shared custody, where a wide divergence in the parents’ income can create controversy and hurt feelings. While several models exist, and the process will vary greatly from state to state,

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Misguided Divorce Myths Parents Have About Kids

When dealing with divorce, parents tend to get silo minded in their thinking of “What’s in Johnny’s best interest?” Here are a few misguided myths, parents and children have on divorce. Myth 1: My Child will be Better Off If an *Ex* is Out of the Picture. Children seldom view a parent in the same way as an adult. Even if a parent is *‘out of the picture,’* they are always in the children’s mind.

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Factors to Determine Primary Child Custody

So you are preparing for your child custody court case. You can increase your odds of winning, and make yourself more comfortable if you have some idea what questions will be asked. We have already discussed What Does a Judge Look for in a Child Custody Case? Now lets list factors to determine primary child custody:

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How to Mean Business in Front of Your Judge

So let’s get this straight. A person you barely know (judge), is going to make life-changing decisions for you, and your child. How much visitation you get, whether or not you get custody, and how much child support you will pay will be determined by this person. Great. No pressure here. Of course, you must prepare for the initial meeting, and you can’t be careless or neglectful.

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7 Custody Facts You Need to Ignore

What is it that you wonder about, that you question whether they come into play or not? What is it that might seem important, but are never actually in play or at least not suppose to be in play, or don’t come into play unless they negatively affect the child? What are some custody facts you need to ignore?

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Be Prepared for Your Child Custody Evaluation

In 90% of divorces involving children, the parents manage to reach an agreement regarding child custody. However, if you and your Ex aren’t able to accomplish that, the court will step in and determine the appropriateness of each parent’s role in their child’s upbringing.

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