[T]aking care of your kids full time usually means you’ve decided to leave work to take care of your kids, and also that you’re not with the other parent anymore and the kids are staying with you. Taking care of the kids full time can be tough, especially on your own – which is why many single parents do decide to stop working. Below, you’ll find some advice that can help you when taking care of your kids full time:
Taking Care of Your Kids – Making Arrangements For The Other Parent
Usually, it’s customary to make arrangements for the other parent to see the children when you’ve won child custody. However, this may not be the case if they have proven themselves to be dangerous or an unfit parent in some way. The courts or a lawyer/mediator will help you to come up with an arrangement that is suitable if you’re not sure how to navigate this. In some cases, you might allow them to have the kids for a day or two at a time and stay overnight – others, you may simply want them back after a few hours. It all depends on the circumstances.
Be Careful Of What You Say Around Your Kids
Although you may have split up with their other parent, you need to be very careful of what you say around your kids. Their brains are like sponges, and you don’t want them to grow up feeling like the other parent didn’t want them or that they’re not good enough for the other parent. You don’t have to outright say this for them to believe it from other things you say about the parent not trying hard enough. Always be mindful and try to remain polite and nice when talking about their other parent if they are still in the picture. If they are not in the picture, it could be a good idea to wait until they are old enough to handle the truth about what happened.
Taking Care of Your Kids – Establish A Daily Routine
It can be tough taking care of kids full time, which is why a daily routine can be useful for everybody. Establish your own daily routine. Get up at the same time, brush your teeth, get dressed, eat breakfast – and make sure you stick to your routine every day, even on weekends. Your kids will quickly learn how to do certain things themselves, and this will take some of the pressure off you. Having more structure is also healthier for kids, too.
Taking Care of Your Kids – Build A Support System
Make sure you ask for help if you need it – taking care of kids full time is hard! Build a support system by keeping friends and family close, and don’t forget to socialize with other parents.
Take Time For Yourself
Taking time for yourself is essential. You can’t take care of your kids when you’re running on empty. You’ll be in a better position to take care of your children when you take care of yourself.
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