Tag: Dealing with the Ex

Dealing With A Break-Up In A Healthy Way

There are no two ways about it. Break-ups can be intense, complicated, and leave you feeling lost. And while you won’t feel better overnight, there are a number of things that you can do to help you feel better. This post shares some suggestions for dealing with a break-up in a healthy way.

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Maintaining A Good Family Life Post-Marriage

As you probably already know, maintaining a good family life post-marriage can be difficult. You have to balance a good relationship with your kids and a civil relationship with your previous partner. That doesn’t mean you and your Ex need to be ecstatically happy to see one another; it just means you need to be respectful of one another. As parents, your responsibility is to provide a strong foundation for your kids as they grow and develop. Let’s talk about maintaining a good family life post-marriage.

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What Not To Do When You Split Up With The Mother Of Your Child

Getting co-parenting right with a person you are no longer in a relationship with can be really tough. Depending on the terms of the split, you might find communication tough, and crossed wires can lead to all kinds of arguments and disagreements. Even if you split in amicable terms, certain things can come up that can make this new relationship difficult to navigate – such as starting a relationship with a new person.

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How To Build A Relationship With Your Children Post Divorce

The dust has begun to settle from the divorce, and your routine of sharing care for your children between you and your Ex may be starting to take shape or perhaps you have succeeded in obtaining full custody. Either way, the importance shouldn’t be laid upon the amount of time you spend with the children. Instead, it should be about what you are doing to build a relationship with your children when you are together.

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The High Road – Can It Be Taken During Familial Chaos?

But can the high road be taken? While it’s naive to think that in these circumstances everyone will act in the most professional and clinical manner possible, is it possible to adjust your own actions to ensure that you only carry self-respect, and prevent the contained issue from causing the chaos that’s always potentially on the horizon? We’d say yes.

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Child Custody: How To Decide What Is Best For Your Loved One

If your marriage breaks down at some point in the future, it is vital that you always act in the best interests of your children. Many parents become selfish and fight for custody even if their kids are better off with the other parent. That is the last thing you want to do because it could have adverse effects on the little ones and leave them feeling confused when they mature. With that in mind, there is some advice below that should help all parents going through child custody how to decide what is best for their loved ones.

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The Greatest Divorces I’ve Ever Encountered

So many times we focus or hear about terrible divorces and custody battles that last forever. In my 18 years of dealing and working with child custody issues, I have run across a few shining examples of parents with the greatest divorces. These parents worked it out, put their kids first, and got along better than most married couples.

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Co-Parenting Really Sucks, Ok I Said It

Out of respect to my daughter, I haven’t shared much about my current co-parenting situation. As I review and compare DGC to other custody blogs, I realize I have purposely left out the million crazy instances of co-parenting with someone who has a very different moral and parenting style. As the title of this blog indicates, Daddy Got Custody, I have been the custodial parent since my daughter was four (she’s about to be 17 next month).

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Fair is Never Part of the Custody Equation

I received an email letter from a Mom who is greatly concerned because the courts are recommending shared custody of their 10 year old son. She, rightfully so, feels this recommendation is unfair because the father has been out of the son’s life for most of his childhood, and yet the social worker feels it is the the child’s best interest.

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She’s Your Ex, Not Your Best Friend

The number one thing to remember when you are communicating with your Ex is to keep it short and sweet. And if you can’t do both, keep it even shorter. You may be one of those rare people who is on good term with your Ex, but, if getting a divorce teaches you anything it’s that feelings can change. The fact that you are getting along now…

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A Closer Look at the Children’s Bill of Rights in Divorce

In the continuing theme of “What’s in the Best Interest of a Child,” divorce mediation expert Robert Emery, PhD has come up with “The Children’s Bill of rights in Divorce.” In a partial summary, Dr. Emery says, “If you can give your children these freedoms, you will have gone a long way toward filling your responsibilities as a parent.”

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How to Gain Custody After the Divorce

When I tell parents that in cases where both parents are pretty good and equal, I rarely see judges changing custody just because the kids want them too. It does in fact happen. However a closer look of the facts usually reveals the change is being made “outside” the courtroom.

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Lawyers are Gone Time to Rebuild Trust Part 2

With emotions running high before, during and after a break-up, ill feelings are often harbored, maybe for years. All of that makes it easy to overreact (and justify same). However, always remember that communication with this person is necessary for the duration of Sally’s formative years, maybe longer.

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Lawyers are Gone Time to Rebuild Trust Part 1

The divorce is final; you’re glade to have it behind you, but you don’t feel good about it. Sure you and your Ex had a relationship that ended badly, but you had some good times, too. And besides, you had a child together, so you’ll have to continue some type of relationship.

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Be Proactive Going into a Divorce

Divorce and child custody can be an ugly mean game. Sadly most parents don’t take the high road for the sake of the relationship or the process for the kids. Since you have determined you cannot move forward in the relationship together you must have your guard up and be hyper sensitive in regards to your Ex, your children, and your surroundings.

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Beginning Divorce: Awkward and Hard

He unexpectedly showed up at a recent dinner party the couple had been planning long before the split. As expected, the evening was awkward (yes, I was there). For most of the night, the wife stayed in one room of their spacious house, he in another. The guests made it easier for them as we broke half one way and half the other.

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Are You the Problem When Johnny Doesn’t Want to Visit?

The time has come for the *“weekend visit.”* Ever since the divorce, your child has visited the non-custodial parent, mostly without incident. However, this time is different. The child balks, drags his feet, and complains. While that might not be unusual, this time, his reaction is more determined.

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5 Tips You Must Follow, Newly Divorced Parent

You married the wrong person. You admit your mistake. You have divorced, and are in the process of picking up the pieces and get on with your life, all made more difficult because of the children involved. They are a part of the separation. They will go through emotional difficulties as well, and those issues must be addressed.

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