Tag: Better Parents Deserve Custody

First 10 Things to Do to Win Custody

Lately, I have been getting lots of emails from parents, thanking me for the podcast and asking me what is the “First Things I Should Do to Win Custody?” Here is a summary of the first 10 things to do to win custody of your kids. 1. Can You Delay until the Kids are Grown? This may sound like a crazy suggestion, but time flies and no matter how you divide up visitation at best you are only going to spend a fraction of your time with your kids compared to before.

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How To Improve Your Case for Custody After a Divorce

Divorce can be amicable, but more often than not, it can turn ugly. Though you should never put your children in the boxing ring with you, in some cases it is necessary to fight for primary or sole custody. If your spouse has an addiction, is notoriously poor with money and in huge debt, is abusive, or otherwise mentally unwell, then your children deserve a more stable, happy home.

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Why Selfishness Is the Key to Being a Better Parent

We often hear two different opinions when it comes to parenting; you either put your kids first or you put yourself first, there’s no in-between. Most people tend to agree with this. After all, raising kids is a handful and there are plenty of people out there that think having a child is pretty much the end of your life until they grow old enough to fend for themselves in the world.

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What Judges Look for in a Custodial Parent

It’s been three years since I wrote, What Does a Judge Look for in a Child Custody Case. To expand beyond that post, I thought I would actually go interview a sitting family court judge. A few phone calls later, and with a Chic-fil-a lunch bribe, a local judge agreed to discuss, “What do you look for in a custodial parent when both side appear equal?”

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Strategies that Will Gain Child Custody (2/2)

Five Strategies that Will NOT Gain Child Custody. Do Not…arrive late for visits or pick-ups of your children. Being an adult (parent) means you honor commitments. That includes not just ‘doing’ but ‘doing on time.’ That multiplies when dealing with your children. If you claim they are a priority, then you will show that you want to spend time with them.

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Good Custodial Parenting Requires Adjustments (2/2)

No matter how much you love you kids, and thrilled to get them full-time, remember they are part of your world, not your entire world. You need some time to yourself, develop and maintain relationships with others. Last time, we listed five ways in which Dads can, with little effort achieve these goals, this time we’ll list five more.

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Good Custodial Parenting Requires Adjustments (1/2)

Now that you have won custody of your children, your relationship with them will probably need modification from your former “weekend Dad” days. This transition can put a strain on both parent and child. As a weekend Dad, Julie and Johnny were actually visitors. You could justify being bit more free-wheeling with them, with somewhat lax rules, undetermined bed times, and scheduled more elaborate weekend activities than you were comfortable with.

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Swallowing Pride May Prove a Key Element in Gaining Custody (3/3)

The courts do not want to report to a judge that you lost your temper in a court, especially in front of your family, even if you were a victim in the particular situation. In the 1992 movie, *”A Few Good Men”* Jack Nicholson’s character totally and completely loses his case based on losing his temper. It not only happens in movies, it happens frequently in real life!

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Swallowing Pride May Prove a Key Element in Gaining Custody (1/3)

Your divorce left you mentally and emotionally battered, poorer, even humiliated. But the months (years?) of fighting doesn’t stop with ending the relationship with your now-Ex. You’re still facing a child custody case. And get ready for more humiliation. She will likely extend her vitriol by painting you as a bad parent, maybe even more vociferously than she did as a spouse. You will want to lash out, and via your attorney, you will.

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The Involved Custodial Dad is into His Kids’ Activities

Whether you are currently the custodial parent to your kids or are working toward that goal, staying involved in their lives is critical. If you don’t have primary custody of your children but plan to fight for that privilege, then actively working to be fully present in their lives will reflect well on you in court.

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Joint Custody a Death Sentence for Super Dads

If you are an extraordinary parent, asking for sole custody doesn’t make you a bad guy. Would Susie’s life be better off with her spending the majority of time with you? Are you capable of being the primary parent? If you answer those questions honestly and are not the better parent, then I think joint custody is absolutely fine to walk into. Just understand exactly what you are signing up for.

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Factors to Determine Primary Child Custody

So you are preparing for your child custody court case. You can increase your odds of winning, and make yourself more comfortable if you have some idea what questions will be asked. We have already discussed What Does a Judge Look for in a Child Custody Case? Now lets list factors to determine primary child custody:

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If Custody Goes to the Better Parent, What Makes One?

Getting divorced with kids is usually a sad state of affairs. Who should be the primary custodian if all things are equal in a divorce? Left up to the courts, there is really no such thing as shared equal custody. And in my opinion, equal custody isn’t a practical or logistical solution anyway. Judges and case workers tend to agree…

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An Effective Childcare Plan Helped Father Gain Custody

In January 2013, the Superior Court of Pennsylvania switched a couple’s joint-custody arrangement to giving sole custody to the father. The child was just about to start kindergarten. The trial took only two days. While the mother focused on the past and failed to show her worthiness as the better parent.

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How to Win Custody of Your Kids Course

For years now it has been my passion to meet with parents on court strategies to help them win custody. While I still love meeting with parents, there is only so many people I can meet with one-on-one. And this is why I am developing this course I am so excited to tell you about today. When my daughter turned four, I became the primary custodian…

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A Closer Look at the Children’s Bill of Rights in Divorce

In the continuing theme of “What’s in the Best Interest of a Child,” divorce mediation expert Robert Emery, PhD has come up with “The Children’s Bill of rights in Divorce.” In a partial summary, Dr. Emery says, “If you can give your children these freedoms, you will have gone a long way toward filling your responsibilities as a parent.”

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7 Custody Facts You Need to Focus On

What you do with your spare time, how you conduct yourself, what you say on social media is now up for evaluation in child custody. So all things being equal, what does your custody case really come down too? What elements should you be focused on?

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Parent Child Abuse Court Reporting

Bring the situation to the attention of your attorney and have her take it to the judge or CPS. But as with all accusations, you need concrete documentation. False accusations are an absolutely killer to your custody case and are fairly common in child custody proceedings.

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Sabotaging Your Custody Case

Judges and courts take drug/alcohol abuse seriously. If accused, allegations can be legitimized through testing, evaluations and interviews. If you have an alcohol or drug abuse problem, get help immediately, otherwise the other parent will have a strong case against you; and it may cost you joint custody or visitation.

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7 Father Secrets Before Attempting Custody

If your Ex has custody of your children, and you want it changed, you have to prepare long before your court date. You should come armed with a host of documents and personal history regarding you and your children, enough to convince a judge that you can handle not just your kids,

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