Everything starts out wonderful. In the early days of marriage or the ‘honeymoon period’, you’re relationship feels like it could never fail. But then kids, stress, and distractions crash the party. You might not notice at first, but cracks begin to appear in your relationship. Before you know it, your marriage is on the rocks. Your healthy marriage is in trouble. What went wrong?
Marriage & Remarriage Category
Let’s face it; divorce is a sensitive subject in most families no matter how prepared you think you are. There are, luckily, ways to ensure that your children are handling a healthy divorce in ways that don’t promote more storms as you go through it.
Going through a divorce or separation makes it seem as if you never want to date again. Fool me once, shame on me but fool me twice. Well, we all know how that proverb ends. Plus, you have custody of the children and it’s your job to keep them safe and warm and happy and well fed. Their needs come first.
I love how curious kids are. It’s one of the things that makes them so utterly infectious, seeing the world through completely unbiased and unfiltered eyes as they navigate this and that, and ask questions that have us parents furiously rattling our brains to come up with the right answer.
I don’t know you, but I can name one thing you keep on your person at all times. Yep, a cell phone has become that important in modern society. There isn’t a moment when you can’t look around and see millennials and baby boomers glancing at a screen. They’re everywhere and the surge doesn’t seem as if it’s going to stop anytime soon. As helpful as they are, they can ruin lives. Does this sound like a big statement? It should because it’s true, and relationships are in the firing line the most. Below are the reasons why cell phones mutilate love lives.
Parenting is probably the hardest thing that any one person, any marriage, goes through. You change and grow as people and while your children grow, you often lose sight of each other, too. Do you know what makes parenting so much harder? Splitting with your partner. But it’s not for the reason that you think.
Though we prize strength above all else when facing hardship, there is no time when self-care is more important. During a difficult breakup or divorce, we are going to be made vulnerable, even if it happens on our own terms and we win any contentions. It can break your spirit, no matter how well you fare on paper.
A marriage starts off so perfect! Well, most of them do. A lot of marriages go the full way, and people remain in their perfect bubble until it’s time for them to go. However, what we’re seeing more and more with modern day marriages, is the amount that end up in divorce is creeping up and up. It’s a really sad statistic because in the beginning all of the intentions would be there to make it the whole way, and the love would have been so strong that the marriage would have gone ahead.
If you are currently undergoing a divorce, or you are about to, then it helps to be as prepared as possible for what lies ahead. As it happens, there is so much that you will need to be prepared for, emotionally and practically, that it’s a good idea to make sure you know as much about it as possible as early as possible.
Intimacy is a big deal. And no, we’re not just talking about sex. Of course, we all know that sex is a healthy part of any relationship. But you can still have sex and lack intimacy in your marriage. By definition, intimacy relates to closeness, togetherness, and a sense of familiarity. In marriage.
Fifty, forty or even thirty years ago, the concept of divorce was still pretty fresh. It was raw. It was like winning the lottery in the worst possible way, by which we mean it was still really rare. Fast-forward to the modern day and half of all marriages end in a courtroom somewhere and, we’ve got to be honest, most are messy.
There’s understandably a significant focus on divorce within this blog, however, if you’ve found someone special and are wanting to pop the question this Valentine’s Day, you’re probably feeling something between excitement and anxiety. See, we often feel a significant amount of pressure to come up with an elaborate and “romantic” way to pop the question that blows our partner away when we are thinking of proposing.
Everyone can face problems when it comes to their marriage. It could be that you have been together for some time and feel like the marriage is breaking down, or perhaps something has gone awry over the years. Of course, some of the obvious causes of marital breakdown would be your partner straying, lying, cheating, etc.
Humans are complex beings. So complex, in fact, that it’s a wonder that any of us can sustain a relationship for a lifetime; but we do. We persevere because the joys of being in a loving union make it all worthwhile. Still, there’s no denying that any marriage has its ups and downs.
The end of a relationship, or the impending end, is rarely going to be a smooth or easy ride for anyone. It’s certainly not fun. But it’s important to remember that it can always get a whole lot worse if you let it. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what happens. It’s not some unknown force or a malicious outside party that makes a break-up get nasty.