Breakups are hard. Losing someone is devastating. But, both of these things are instanced that can happen in one moment in time. However hard they can be to overcome and move on from, time still ticks on by. And you may find that you get to a point where you want to be happy again.
A divorce is one of the most stressful things that a person can experience. The whole process of a divorce is fraught with emotion and obstacles that need to be overcome. Being stuck in an unhappy marriage, coupled with the aftermath of separation, is incredibly stressful. Dealing with all the wrangling over possessions, and most importantly, who gets custody of the kids can really take their toll on both your physical and mental health.
After a divorce or a break up that involves children, people immediately begin to invoke the word “custody.” The concept of custody is antiquated. Custody presumes that there can only be one parent who truly makes decisions and monopolizes the children’s time. This custody concept leaves the other parent as the parent “without custody” and only gets every other weekend at best.
If you’re a single parent or share custody, you’ll need a job you can fit around family life. When you choose to work in a flexible industry, such as the motor trade, you can build a thriving business, earn a great income and work from home. If you have experience working with cars or an interest in engines, starting a business in the motor trade could be easier than you think.
When you are 40 or older, you may experience a change in values that could affect how you see your job and the industry you work in. Perhaps, you want more flexibility in your work hours, better retirement benefits, more productive use of your skills and experience, or a job that makes you happy. No matter your reason, it will most likely produce the desire to switch to a career that best suits your present and future values.
Going through a divorce can be tough for everyone, but not only is it tough for you and your partner, its just as triggering for your children. It’s important that even though you’re going through it, you consider your children in this turmoil too. They’re your responsibility, and therefore you owe it to them to look after them properly. Here are some tips to help your children through a divorce.
One of our most important tasks in parenting is to be a great role model for our children. If kids have been through a tough time, such as parental divorce, this becomes more crucial than ever. They need to know that they have our love but they also need our guidance in uncertain times. Learning to keep your own emotions and biases out of the picture, focus on what your children need from you, and model positive habits and behavior is vital. How you are as a Dad shapes their view of the world and the type of adult they will become. But of course, there’s no manual handed out when you become a parent- so how do you make the right moves – for your kids?
There are no two ways about it. Break-ups can be intense, complicated, and leave you feeling lost. And while you won’t feel better overnight, there are a number of things that you can do to help you feel better. This post shares some suggestions for dealing with a break-up in a healthy way.
It’s tough as any single parent. You feel like you have to make up for time. To apologize in a way for breaking your family up, even if it wasn’t your fault. It’s really hard to find time for yourself, especially if you’re in any kind of financial stress. But it’s important. You’re not going to be a brilliant Dad if you’re struggling with mental health issues or feel like the world is closing in around you. You have to make time for yourself.
Over the last 20 years, I have helped a ton of parents with their custody cases. One of the first pieces of advice I always recommend to clients is… “Ask for more time with your kids.” This statement is so useful in many ways that I want to approach it from several different angles.