One of our most important tasks in parenting is to be a great role model for our children. If kids have been through a tough time, such as parental divorce, this becomes more crucial than ever. They need to know that they have our love but they also need our guidance in uncertain times. Learning to keep your own emotions and biases out of the picture, focus on what your children need from you, and model positive habits and behavior is vital. How you are as a Dad shapes their view of the world and the type of adult they will become. But of course, there’s no manual handed out when you become a parent- so how do you make the right moves – for your kids?
There are no two ways about it. Break-ups can be intense, complicated, and leave you feeling lost. And while you won’t feel better overnight, there are a number of things that you can do to help you feel better. This post shares some suggestions for dealing with a break-up in a healthy way.
It’s tough as any single parent. You feel like you have to make up for time. To apologize in a way for breaking your family up, even if it wasn’t your fault. It’s really hard to find time for yourself, especially if you’re in any kind of financial stress. But it’s important. You’re not going to be a brilliant Dad if you’re struggling with mental health issues or feel like the world is closing in around you. You have to make time for yourself.
Over the last 20 years, I have helped a ton of parents with their custody cases. One of the first pieces of advice I always recommend to clients is… “Ask for more time with your kids.” This statement is so useful in many ways that I want to approach it from several different angles.
Lately, I have been getting lots of emails from parents, thanking me for the podcast and asking me what is the “First Things I Should Do to Win Custody?” Here is a summary of the first 10 things to do to win custody of your kids. 1. Can You Delay until the Kids are Grown? This may sound like a crazy suggestion, but time flies and no matter how you divide up visitation at best you are only going to spend a fraction of your time with your kids compared to before.
Divorce can be amicable, but more often than not, it can turn ugly. Though you should never put your children in the boxing ring with you, in some cases it is necessary to fight for primary or sole custody. If your spouse has an addiction, is notoriously poor with money and in huge debt, is abusive, or otherwise mentally unwell, then your children deserve a more stable, happy home.
hen you’ve finally been through all of the legal battles and stressful court proceedings, it can feel like the nightmare has finally ended as you embark on a new life together with your child. Unfortunately, it’s likely not the last [...]
The opportunities for father and son together time start way before you even get anywhere near the water. Planning your new hobby is an exciting time and a great way to bond. You will need to take a shopping trip together to get equipped for your new interest. Researching products and making purchase decisions together adds to the experience.
One of the hardest parts of breaking up with a serious partner that rarely gets discussed is dealing with financial hardship. Unless you were the sole provider, divorce is likely to result in loss of income, as you won’t have someone else contributing to bills and everyday expenses. There may also be savings and assets that you jointly own, which need to be fairly divided. With all the emotional struggles surrounding a divorce, it’s often easy to make the wrong financial decisions. Here are just a few tips for helping you to financially survive divorce.
As a young man, visiting the internet these days is a tumultuous time, for many reasons we needn’t go into here. We are not here to debate politics, or philosophy, or even contest with experiences you might have had. Instead, without being naive or disrespectful, we wish to try and help young men who may have adopted some bad ideas as their own, ideas that may ultimately force them out of the dating circuit through attitude alone.