We all want the best for our children, but rarely does it ever work out how we want it to. Perhaps we struggle with simple things such as keeping our kids happy, or maybe we’ll have trouble filling in the gaps that a single father is tasked with. No matter how hard you work at becoming the ideal dad and how much you provide for your kids, things can always turn upside down and hit you like a ton of bricks.
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Being a single parent is going to be one of the most challenging things that you will ever have to do. Having said that, it is also going to be one of the most rewarding. Watching your kids laugh, and grow is one of the best things that you can experience as a parent. But when you are a single father, there are some things that you need to consider. Winging it might be a good approach sometimes, and yet other times you need to have thought about everything to do with the future. In this post, we are going to talk to you about elements to consider when you are a single father.
The dust has begun to settle from the divorce, and your routine of sharing care for your children between you and your Ex may be starting to take shape or perhaps you have succeeded in obtaining full custody. Either way, the importance shouldn’t be laid upon the amount of time you spend with the children. Instead, it should be about what you are doing to build a relationship with your children when you are together.
No one goes into having children thinking of raising them alone. The pinnacle of your family life, if you ever thought about having kids before meeting your significant other, it was probably some fragrance ad dream featuring two gorgeous looking, well-rested parents swinging a cherub-cheeked toddler between them as they stroll down a beautiful beach.
There can be a range of reasons as to why your life changes. And it will change often. But one of the hurdles that you may be faced with as a male and a father, in particular, is that you could become a lone parent. Maybe you’ve been through a horrific time and you’re dealing with grief. Or maybe your relationship just couldn’t work out and you’re not a divorced father with full custody. Either way, you may find that you need to adjust to life as a newly single father.
We try our best to do well by our kids, and, when it comes to being a caring, attentive father, we can be bound by various pressures. It’s very difficult when you see the epitome of the “perfect” dad out in the street, or on television, and you try to emulate this, you can make a rod for our own back. If we were to be the perfect father, we’d have to get up early, way before the sun comes up, and perfect that strong image so we can protect our kids from all of the dangers in life.
Throughout human history, we’ve looked to heroes. Before we had Superman, Batman, Captain America and Wonder Woman we had Gilgamesh, Hercules, and Achilles. But aside from the pantheon of heroes in our folklore and our mythologies, there are other heroes to whom we all look up the most in our formative years… Our parents. While our teenage selves would never have admitted it, we all admired (and even envied) our parents growing up.
Whether you have full, or partial custody of your kids, the most important thing is to be the best Dad you can be. Of course, being a good Dad isn’t an easy task, and there are many decisions and issue you will have to overcome along the way. The most crucial of which you can find out more about below.
Life is tough on pretty much everybody. We’re all struggling under the yoke of suppressed wages, long working hours, rents that continue to crawl upwards even as our pay stagnates and a cost of living that always seems just out of our reach. For a single parent, however, an already difficult life can seem like swimming against the tide. We wage a never-ending battle with ourselves. We constantly turn the cold light of introspection upon ourselves and our lives. We’re always asking ourselves if we could and should be doing more to advance our career while constantly plagued by doubts as to whether we’re doing the best thing for our kids.
Whether you are looking forward to or dreading the summer vacation, the fact is that it’s coming, and soon! Of course, summer doesn’t have to be fraught will stress and hassle for parents or their kids. In fact, if you stick to the advice below you will be able to have a fun-filled and successful summer that everyone will enjoy.
Being able to be who you are is one of the best feelings in life. It means you’re always going to be looking at what you want, saying what you want, doing what you want, and ultimately living in a healthy and positive manner. To accomplish this our kids should be encouraged from a young age, and that encouragement should always start with the parents!
Kids have brains like sponges. They soak everything up from the time they are babies: everything you say and do, the attitudes and beliefs that you have – even if you don’t see this right away. This means that it’s imperative to teach them certain lessons while they’re young, so they can get into the habit of them and become healthy, happy, well-rounded adults.
When your little ones are so young, you always seem to want the next milestone to come along. The one where they will start talking, the one where they start walking, running playing, communicating. But then as the age approaches for them to start their educational journey you all of a sudden wonder why you rushed it all.
Cycling has long been one of the most popular ways for people to move around. Giving access to pavements, roads, and anything in between, a lot of people find that this form of transport is very useful. For kids, it presents freedom which can’t be found anywhere else, but this can make it hard for some parents.
Divorce is not going to be easy, no matter who is involved. It is a tricky process filled with emotions that often can’t be explained, other than that they’re causing a lot of pain and hurt. Even if a divorce is agreed on both sides, there’s still going to be some sort of emotion involved.