There’s no getting around it – divorce will cost money. But how much money you spend on the proceeding is, ultimately, down to you. Let’s take a look at some of the ways you can save. First and foremost, don’t dive into divorce proceedings unless it is absolutely necessary. Whether you are saving money or not, the reality is that separation and divorce are going to be expensive, both in financial and, possibly, emotional terms.
Your Court Category
It’s been three years since I wrote, What Does a Judge Look for in a Child Custody Case. To expand beyond that post, I thought I would actually go interview a sitting family court judge. A few phone calls later, and with a Chic-fil-a lunch bribe, a local judge agreed to discuss, “What do you look for in a custodial parent when both side appear equal?”
Friends, I get letters and eMails every day asking questions about their specific court cases. I will try to find the best ones and sharing my answers weekly. Below is an eMail from a step-Dad asking, “What to Expect After a Social Study” regarding his wife’s child custody process.
Seven years before the 21st century, 15.9% of children were living with their fathers while the mother lived somewhere else. Almost 25 years later, has that number improved? In the U.S., how often do fathers really win full custody? There are a lot of sources, statistics and theorist that answer this question, but let’s turn to Timothy Grall, of the U.S. Census for answers.
Sometimes, allegations of spousal abuse, neglect, or substance abuse may require a court to make the final determinations. If serious allegations or problems arise, the entire family may be referred to child custody evaluation. Usually, the entire family will then be referred for child custody evaluation. Typically, the results are presented to the court to determine the most suitable custody and parenting arrangement.
6% of non-custodial parents assist with their children’s college. That last fact is shocking. No wonder fewer from divorced families go to college; too many are limited by the income/funds because only one parent (usually the mother) is paying the bills. And of course, the biggest reason cited for children of divorce to not attend college is, a lack of funds.
To prevent conflict as a result of miscommunication, you might have your letter time-stamped and dated. You can bring three copies of your notice to the courthouse, where you may get each copy officially stamped with the date and time. Then, leave one copy to be kept on file with the court, mail one copy to the custodial parent, and keep one copy for yourself.
To win your child social study evaluation, your kids will need to feel comfortable talking with the case worker. Yes, they are going to have to talk and answer questions with this stranger. Caitlyn was four years old when a caseworker arrived at my house to conduct the court appointed social study.
I received an email letter from a Mom who is greatly concerned because the courts are recommending shared custody of their 10 year old son. She, rightfully so, feels this recommendation is unfair because the father has been out of the son’s life for most of his childhood, and yet the social worker feels it is the the child’s best interest.
When I was in high school, occasionally teachers would give the class a “pop quiz” or ”pre-test” on Mondays. These tests would be over material we had never seen or studied. The majority of us would fail the test, which was totally acceptable. The goal of the instructors were to see what we knew, before diving into a week long of lessons.
So you’ve got two kids, and you and your Ex are haggling over custody? Both might expect a long, expensive, protracted legal battle, something no one really wants or can afford. But neither of you wants to give up custody. But who says the kids should stay together? Is splitting children a reasonable custody strategy?
While painful, child support can be fairly clean, especially when one parent is the primary caretaker. However it gets more complicated with shared custody, where a wide divergence in the parents’ income can create controversy and hurt feelings. While several models exist, and the process will vary greatly from state to state,
When dealing with divorce, parents tend to get silo minded in their thinking of “What’s in Johnny’s best interest?” Here are a few misguided myths, parents and children have on divorce. Myth 1: My Child will be Better Off If an *Ex* is Out of the Picture. Children seldom view a parent in the same way as an adult. Even if a parent is *‘out of the picture,’* they are always in the children’s mind.
So you are preparing for your child custody court case. You can increase your odds of winning, and make yourself more comfortable if you have some idea what questions will be asked. We have already discussed What Does a Judge Look for in a Child Custody Case? Now lets list factors to determine primary child custody:
So let’s get this straight. A person you barely know (judge), is going to make life-changing decisions for you, and your child. How much visitation you get, whether or not you get custody, and how much child support you will pay will be determined by this person. Great. No pressure here. Of course, you must prepare for the initial meeting, and you can’t be careless or neglectful.