So many times we focus or hear about terrible divorces and custody battles that last forever. In my 18 years of dealing and working with child custody issues, I have run across a few shining examples of parents with the greatest divorces. These parents worked it out, put their kids first, and got along better than most married couples.
Marriage & Remarriage Category
Fred Campos, @FullCustodyDad blogger, discusses your existing marriage and tips for remarriage as a blended family with children. If you decide to remarry, there are certain issues to consider with your new partner. Fred discusses dating during your ongoing court battle. He gives tips regarding blended family and step-parent issues to expect.
After months of fighting, arguing and living an unfulfilling and frustrated life, Dave (not his real name), finally determined his marriage was over. A teacher, he sat in the lounge wondering how he could get out of his unhappy situation. His only way out would force him to dip into his already strained resources.
You’ve put up with so much for so long. You’ve been so unhappy. But today was it. Maybe it was one last argument. Or it could have been the stark, albeit unhappy realization that you just don’t love her and you never will. So you are ready to take that scary step, the one that will affect you, your family and most of your relationships for the rest of your life. So you’ve decided on the only answer: Divorce.
Today is Mother's Day. (Hi mom!) And for many mom's across America, it is a slightly sad day. I am talking about those unsung heroes that fly under the radar...the Stepmoms! Those parental helpers and most of the time better parents who assist us dads in parenting, fighting for our kids, negotiating with the Ex, doing homework, and cooking meals in this crazy blended family thing we call... life.
Yes, half of all marriages end in divorce. That stat has been floating around for so long, that its almost part of our cultural fabric. But according the Huffington Post, the nation’s divorce rate has been dropping for years. About 70% of marriages that began in the 1990s reached their 15th anniversary, up from roughly 65% that began in the 70s and 80s.
We live in a society that is focused on that 1-2-3, quick facts, secret sauce way of solving problems. When it comes to marriage and divorce, there really are no quick fixes or silver bullets that kill and prevent divorce. With divorce rates still 40-50% in America for first marriages (60% for 2nd, 73% for 3rd), you should consider all elements to prevent divorce if you can.
If you are looking for a new spouse, or if you find one without looking, introducing her to your children can be tricky and uncomfortable. Your children have probably been stressed by an upheaval in their lives, and now, as they are adapting to a new life, they might fear having to go through it again. Introducing them to a potential new parent might not help your relationship. Keep in mind that no matter what, ...
Parenting is tough enough when you have a partner, but when you’re doing it alone, the difficulty reaches new heights. Yet single parents everywhere are successfully and happily raising children by themselves. Like virtually all aspects of single parenting, it takes more work and planning to make it successful, but it can be done,
For years, you kept your family together through hidden conflicts and unspoken conflict. Maybe you knew the day would come when you and your spouse would call it quits. Perhaps you even discussed it. One day, the last child leaves to begin his own life with his new family.
You’ve been aching to start dating again. But in your new capacity as single-parent, you know in your new social circle, you will run into many single mothers (and by single, we mean moms with younger children). The US is home to 10 million single moms, so the odds are good that you may date one.
After a divorce, I urge people to absolutely stay away from drugs and other anesthetics like overeating, but I do suggest simple tools like regular exercise to help people through the emotional turmoil.” - Dr. Michael Plumeri, psychologist and author. Dr. Plumeri, himself a child of divorce, helped Lisa Bien get through her own divorce experiences. The psychologist advises his patients to postpone...
Your divorce is over. You’ve taken time to digest and decompress your situation. You want to return to socializing. You want to date again. But how to get started? What are the new dating rules? How do you avoid the pitfalls that befall so many other dads in your situation? Most divorced dads fear reentering the dating world. Probably topping the list is the uncertainty of how their children will respond.
In most marriages, moms spend more time taking care of the kids than any other adult. When the kids are young, it is very important that you take your wife out on date nights, and quarterly spend time away from the kids. But we’re not talking about marriage building. Your wife is talking divorce. Maybe she has just served you paperwork. She is totally stressed out.
We’ve all heard it, maybe seen it up close or can speak of first-hand experience. “I’m unhappy in my marriage, but I’m staying in it for my kids.” But should you? Is it an idea that stems from good intentions but is it really in the best interest of the kids? Now we can find all kinds of confusing statistics and graphs that tell us that is or isn’t the proper course of action, but what about...
At some point, you’ll want to share your new life with someone long term, or maybe you’ll want to embrace your new bachelor lifestyle and ‘play the field.’ But whichever of these philosophies you try, you will soon have to face the daunting task of actually asking for a date. The last time you did that, you drove a Volkswagen Beetle.