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Showtime Begins and Ends in Court from Your Car by Fred Campos

Showtime Begins & Ends in Court from Your Car

For court appointments of any kind, drive your oldest most conservative car.  Upon exiting the vehicle you show your confidence with a smile. You don’t know who you will pass on your way into the building. You could be passing attorneys, jury members and judges. In my case, it was a jury trial that lasted three days. So there were jury members I was not allowed to talk to but whom I nevertheless saw in the restroom and shared elevators with. Showtime begins and ends in court, the moment your park and return back to your car.

You’re Being Watched In and Out of Court

Judges, opposing counsels, witnesses, are parking cars next to yours, walking in behind you and either getting the doors held for them by you—or else closed in their faces.  During my trial, I saw dads and other people going to court who were losing their cool in the parking garage—cussing, cutting up, saying negative things about their spouses—while judges and jury members were still watching them.

It is therefore up to you to keep your act clean both in and out of the courtroom.

Later in other tips, I’ll tell you about getting to do a post-trial interview with a jury member, and how close I came to not getting custody, despite all my preparations and hard work. It comes down to little things like whether you were polite, whether you held doors open, how you spoke, if you made good eye contact. It is imperative to your success that you maintain your composure until the moment you leave and drive calmly away in your car.

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What court behavior have you witnessed? What would you add?

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Fred Campos, Top Geek, blogs about everything from House of Cards to Subway. In addition to blogging, he is a public speaker and humorist in child custody, social media, web development and parenting. He is married to one @SuperParentMom, and raising three world changers. For more details on his custody course visit, Like this post? Make sure you subscribe to this blog.

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  • Pippi February 19, 2010, 6:46 pm

    New follower. Fortunately, my divorce did not involve attorneys or court but I am interested in reading more about your experiences.


  • dadshouse March 9, 2010, 11:11 am

    Great post. You never know who is watching. Same can be said for what we write in the blogosphere. I’m very aware of the electronic footprint I leave.

    Look forward to reading more of your writing!

  • FullCustodyDad March 14, 2010, 3:11 am

    Thanks Pippi & DadsHouse!

    More tips coming your way, stay tuned! As a follow-up thought, I’ve gotten some negative email about this post. Right, wrong, or indifferent, we live in a society that judges people by their appearance–from the clothes they wear, to the cars they drive. I wish we lived in a society that could look at custody very objectively. That is simply NOT true. The system allows criminals to wear suits in court, used car dealers to paint and repolish cars, and home sellers to vacuum and bake cookies before a walkthrough. As people, we tend to put our best foot forward and it doesn’t always represent our true self. In court, you simply must do this. Not for trickery, as some might suggest, but rather for understand that it is way the organization operates.

  • Cindy Taylor--Affaircare March 19, 2010, 6:53 pm

    Hi Fred!c I nominated your blog for the Sunshine award “Full Custody Dad — Sometimes the father is just the better parent. Fred encourages fathers to not only seek custody but helps them see how to do it.” Please come to my blog at and get the award so you can display it here and let everyone know that your courage brings sunshine to others.

    • FullCustodyDad April 1, 2010, 8:48 am


      thank you so much! I’m a little late on the draw here but I truly appreciate what you do! Let’s continue to help families!