Over the last 20 years, I have helped a ton of parents with their custody cases. One of the first pieces of advice I always recommend to clients is… “Ask for more time with your kids.” This statement is so useful in many ways that I want to approach it from several different angles.
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Lately, I have been getting lots of emails from parents, thanking me for the podcast and asking me what is the “First Things I Should Do to Win Custody?” Here is a summary of the first 10 things to do to win custody of your kids. 1. Can You Delay until the Kids are Grown? This may sound like a crazy suggestion, but time flies and no matter how you divide up visitation at best you are only going to spend a fraction of your time with your kids compared to before.
Divorce can be amicable, but more often than not, it can turn ugly. Though you should never put your children in the boxing ring with you, in some cases it is necessary to fight for primary or sole custody. If your spouse has an addiction, is notoriously poor with money and in huge debt, is abusive, or otherwise mentally unwell, then your children deserve a more stable, happy home.
The opportunities for father and son together time start way before you even get anywhere near the water. Planning your new hobby is an exciting time and a great way to bond. You will need to take a shopping trip together to get equipped for your new interest. Researching products and making purchase decisions together adds to the experience.
One of the hardest parts of breaking up with a serious partner that rarely gets discussed is dealing with financial hardship. Unless you were the sole provider, divorce is likely to result in loss of income, as you won’t have someone else contributing to bills and everyday expenses. There may also be savings and assets that you jointly own, which need to be fairly divided. With all the emotional struggles surrounding a divorce, it’s often easy to make the wrong financial decisions. Here are just a few tips for helping you to financially survive divorce.
As a young man, visiting the internet these days is a tumultuous time, for many reasons we needn’t go into here. We are not here to debate politics, or philosophy, or even contest with experiences you might have had. Instead, without being naive or disrespectful, we wish to try and help young men who may have adopted some bad ideas as their own, ideas that may ultimately force them out of the dating circuit through attitude alone.
Being ill is always unpleasant. From the common cold to the flu or tonsillitis, being ill stops everything. If you’re trying to combat illness while working full-time, looking after a family, or trying to finish your education, then things can get very difficult. Keeping on top of your illness is essential if you want to speed up your recovery.
Parenting is no easy job and its one that demands a great deal of time. This is why many parents are either over the moon or confused when they finally get kid-free time to themselves. The reality is that there is an endless number of things that you can do depending on your mood and needs at that moment. It could include high-energy activities or lounging around the house guilt-free for once. On that note, here are a couple of ideas for things that you can do during your free time as a Dad.
Maybe friendship is too strong of a goal. Perhaps there is too much negative history and one or both of you years later still can’t get past it. Under those circumstances “friendship” may be unreachable. Maybe just being civil to one another while attending graduations or weddings is a step in the right direction.
Everything starts out wonderful. In the early days of marriage or the ‘honeymoon period’, you’re relationship feels like it could never fail. But then kids, stress, and distractions crash the party. You might not notice at first, but cracks begin to appear in your relationship. Before you know it, your marriage is on the rocks. Your healthy marriage is in trouble. What went wrong?